elope – podictionary 693
My sister is happily married with kids. I remember her wedding as one of the best parties I’ve ever been to. But before all of that my father once joked that if she was ever planning to elope he’d pay for the ladder.
For some reason I have an image in my mind of elopement including a young woman climbing out of her bedroom window, in her parent’s house, with her wedding dress on. You’d think the dress would have been a tip-off to her family.
Our understanding these days of what it is to elope is a couple running away somewhere to get married without all the entanglements and hoopla that surrounds a more conventional wedding; parents, guest lists, caterers…
But it hasn’t always been that way. Back in Shakespeare’s day it was a crime. Back much further than that too.
The first two citations in the Oxford English Dictionary are in Latin and French so can’t be counted in English, but they actually are legal terms that were adopted from Old English; not English later adopting some Latin word. And these crimes weren’t about that gal climbing out of her parents’ window either. Back then to elope meant that you were already married and you were running away from your husband to hang with some other guy.
In this already-married situation a guy was never said to elope, just a gal. The reason this word elope was used for this messy situation was that an earlier Old English word uthleapan was the legal term for an escaping thief.
In these words we can hear the familiar movement words lope and leap and they are in fact etymologically related.
The entry for elope that I see in the Oxford English Dictionary is one of those that hasn’t been updated since its first edition, although none of the other etymology sources I checked disagree. Yet I see in an old 1930 journal that there is some speculation that the parent of elope might be an Anglo-Norman word alope. And that alpoe actually placed the blame on the man, not the woman.
The article cites three legal examples where the sense is that the aloper was a man who kidnapped a woman and had sex with her, presumably against her will, so that she would have to marry him.
This gives a different tone to leap doesn’t it—more along the lines of “to jump someone”—and the article makes that point.
Jumping back to the slightly more modern, I also found a 1938 journal article entitled A Study of 738 Elopements. The researchers found five basic reasons that couples of 80 years ago eloped. Chief among them was parental disapproval. Maybe you should pay some attention to your parents because if you eloped to marry against their will you were 10% more likely to break-up than if you eloped just to save money or to avoid all the attention.
Still, the conclusion was that although there are lots of reasons that people elope, knowing these doesn’t do much to predict how happy the marriage will be. About half the marriages studied turned out happy and the researcher attributed this to the qualities of the people who did the eloping.
Since by the time of this study elope held the meaning we understand today, it’s safe to say that the qualities of these people did not include bigamy or rape.
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